How to get ride of your insecurity and build self esteem

◆How to get ride of your insecurity and build self esteem.

Affirm your own value

Take inventory of everything you’re doing right. Chances are, your thoughts about yourself aren’t taking into account the hundreds of positive micro-decisions we make on a daily basis.

Remembering how you helped your neighbor with their groceries or assisted your boss during an important meeting, can help you focus on your contributions rather than shortcomings.

Take care of your needs first

If you’re always looking after everyone else’s needs and forgetting your own, you’re not valuing yourself enough. Adding in more self-care to your daily routine can help you counter negative thoughts and build up your self-worth.

Here are some ways you can show yourself some love .

• Nurture your body by getting a massage or facial.
• Do your favorite workout at least 30 minutes each day.
• Unplug from your phone or take a social media detox.
• Treat yourself to a nourishing meal.
• Practice self-compassion; talk nicely to yourself.

• Embrace the awkward

  There are going to me moments when you fumble — it’s just part of life. But accepting this fact can help you feel more comfortable in your own skin.

  The next time you find yourself feeling embarrassed or self-conscious, try to laugh it off.

• Challenge negative thoughts

  It’s easy to be hard on ourselves after stumbling or making a mistake. But beating yourself up because you didn’t score that big promotion or forgot to make an important phone call keeps you stuck in a negative cycle of shame and self-loathing.

  Try to practice countering your negative thoughts as they come up:

• • Forgive yourself and understand these are isolated instances that don’t define you as a person.
  • Write down your negative thoughts so that you can step back and simply observe them.
  • Consider what you’ve learned from the experience and re-focus on the positive. How has this taught you to create a better outcome in the future?

  • Spend time with people who love you

    There’s nothing like surrounding yourself with loving, supportive people to build up your confidence and make you feel accepted for who you are.

    Make a plan to set up more coffee dates and get-togethers with your nearest and dearest. Seeing yourself through the eyes of those who care about you will help you appreciate your own unique qualities and perspectives.

  • Reflect on the good

    Celebrate your successes and talk yourself up when you’ve had a big win at work. Being proud of what you do, even if it seems awkward at first, can have a powerful effect on your self-esteem.

    Keep a reminder on hand to help boost your confidence throughout the day by:

    • saving compliments people have given you on your desktop or notes app
    • writing out all of your accomplishments to review them when you’re feeling insecure
    • taking a few minutes each day to list three things you appreciate about yourself.

    • Do things that bring you joy

      Prioritize spending free time doing things that bring you joy and happiness, whether it’s curling up with a book or cooking a good meal from scratch.

      Even better, consider learning a new skill or taking up a hobby you’ve always wanted to try. Aside from making you happy, mastering a new skill is a good reminder of your talents and interests.

    • Focus on baby steps

      Overcoming insecurity and building up your self-esteem don’t happen overnight. Try to be kind to yourself during this process and don’t get discouraged if things aren’t improving as fast as you’d like them too.

      Even if you don’t feel confident today, the small baby steps you are taking now will eventually grow into bigger steps and keep you moving forward.